Everybody knows about “Proma”: the inevitable springtime drama that accompanies prom, when students worry about groups, dresses and askings.
But not so many students are familiar with the term “Homecoma,” or homecoming drama in the fall. In fact, nobody is familiar with this term, because it doesn’t exist. There’s a good reason (besides the lackluster name): homecoming drama is not a big deal. Or at least, it hasn’t been until this year.
Across the school, students seem to be turning a fun dance that’s intended to celebrate the start of a new year into a stressful Prom-esque experience.
Perhaps the most revealing example of how homecoming drama’s reach is “Sophomore Girls Homecoming Dresses,” a Facebook group in which sophomore girls post pictures of their dresses (and backup dresses, and backup backup dresses) to avoid any repeats.
There are several fairly obvious flaws with this idea. First, nobody cares if you’re wearing the same dress as somebody at homecoming. At all. Maybe (and only maybe) it makes sense for seniors at prom to avoid repeats, as senior prom is a quintessential high school moment that you will supposedly remember all of your life and reminisce about at high school reunions. But for your sophomore homecoming dance, at which your group will probably only make an appearance for 10 minutes before heading back to the party bus? Nobody’s going to care— now or in 30 years.
There’s an even more obvious problem with this Facebook group: even if the class eliminates duplicate dresses among sophomores, there’s a good chance that a freshman, junior, or senior will have the dress as well. For this group to work, there would have to be a school-wide effort in which every girl posts her dress to homecoming in a group, and proceeds to extensively stalk the thousand-some posted dresses. And that’s assuming everyone only posts one dress, which we know is too much to ask when talking about Whitman girls. That type of intense Facebook stalking would take hours, time that most girls would, or at least should, be unwilling to waste on fretting over dresses.
So, you may ask, what’s the purpose of such a Facebook group? Nothing, except to create meaningless drama that will make homecoming less fun for everyone. A dance should be an opportunity to relieve stress, not create it. If everyone is worried about what other people are doing and wearing, it won’t bring classes together but will instead tear them apart.